Beyond the Trigger Point

It gets easier.

This also has to do with conditioning. If our nervous system learns certain behaviors from an early age, like fleeing or hiding in certain situations, it will play these patterns again and again as soon as the brain and body feel reminded of them.

These are deeply anchored reactions that we do notice, but sometimes it seems as if we’re helplessly at their mercy. Our head is practically screaming “No” – but we do it anyway, against the rational knowledge that it isn’t the right thing.

And that’s where it gets exhausting. The traumatized child learned to hide, learned that fighting back gets you nowhere. In the here and now – triggered by all kinds of things – we know, at least subconsciously, that old wounds will rise to the surface again as soon as we face the issue. So it’s easier to run away, not to talk, not to act.

Because our nervous system knows how terribly painful what we went through was, and wants with all its might to keep us from going back to that point. But all I can tell you is this. Bear it. Brace yourself for how terribly it hurts, how sobering the truth is… But then it gets easier. Today you can say: “It isn’t my fault, it was put on me from the outside. I’m allowed to heal, I’m allowed to live.” And quite the opposite – you’re not weak if you fall apart at first.

“let go and let the pain in – then comes the release!”

🖤🖤🖤

As a survivor of a traumatic childhood, I'm not speaking as a psychological counselor; I'm telling you about my own life experience and sharing what I've learned.